When things in our lives do not end up as we had hoped, what are we to do? Should we shut down and turn our backs on the world? Do we stay away from our friends and family? Do we blame ourselves for all the wrongs? Why not just build a wall so high around us, no one can get in?
While some of you may be smiling at my words, many people do handle disappointment in some or all of these manners. Thus doubling their problems.
How can we change the wrongs in our lives without hurting ourselves and others in the process? How can we find something good in all the bad around us.
#1 We acknowledge the wrong. You can not change something you never give a name to.
#2 We acknowledge that all of it wasn't our doing. I don't care what it is, unless you are on an island all alone, you will not be the only party in the mishap. Do not take responsibility for the wrong doings of others.
#3 Learn from your mistakes. True, there are some you will do again, it's just part of life. But if you learn one small lesson each time you do it. Soon you will no longer be doing it.
#4 Do not keep yourself from the friends and family that love you. They will give you a foundation to build upon again.
#5 Take the time to let yourself heal. Give yourself permission to mourn, but set a time period.
#6 When that time period is over, move forward. It doesn't matter what the hurt was, the loss of a job, loosing a love to death or another. Once the time span has passed be ready to armour up and move forward.
Staying in the past or present will only make it hurt longer. Forgive yourself and others if need be. Clear your mind of yesterdays and look forward to your tomorrows.
Faylee
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