Go for the Fire!

OK, so you are over 50 and life has gotten you down a bit. You have tried dating the friends from school, the blind dates from Aunt Myrtle and a few nice ones from online. You got nothing, that sparked an interest. So you are thinking about giving up. Well before you do, try my way of looking at the world of senior dating.
As with most things in the last 35 years have changed, dating has changed too. You no longer have to slick back your hair [what hair], get in your 68 Woody and surf over to Mary Lou's house to meet the folks. Now you are meeting her kids and grandchildren.
When you get invited to a gathering, do you hid in the corner, or worse the kitchen or do you come out to the center of the room where everyone can see your smile? Do you sit in the first available chair or keep moving around the room introducing yourself as you go? Did you do your best, to look your best. Bathed, shaved, combed your hair and put on that outfit that everyone says looks great on you or did you just stay in your old house dress and flip flops? Sometimes the reason there is no spark, is because we haven't put the right flint on display.
Here are my suggestions:
[1] Dress the part. Do your best to look your absolutely best. It doesn't have to be new but it does have to be clean, pressed and fit. The shoes need to be clean, polished and fit correctly. You do not want to go around all night with the look of pain on your face, instead of a smile.
[2] Come a little early, not an hour but say 8 to 10 minutes and offer to help. You can meet everyone if you are handing them a drink or taking their coats. It also allows you to see who arrives with a friend/mate.
[3] Carry business cards. If you see someone offer them a contact number with your card. If you no longer work, have some plain cards made with just your name, phone number and email address. That way you are always ready to meet someone.
[4] Keep that smile on your face and be ready to shake hands with all the pretty people.
A smile and a good hello will always get you farther than sitting in the corner and waiting on someone to find you. Forget about the spark, carry that flame with you and show it off!
Faylee

Making an Impact on the Opposite Sex

Are you making the impact on the opposite sex, that you want to or are you finding yourself alone more and more?

Today we are going to go over a few tips that might help all of us get to the places we desire in our romantic life.

In my nine years of Life Coaching, speaking and teaching, I have found we "opposite" sex are more alike than we want to admit. Some of the things we have in common are:

[1] We like clean people.

[2] We like happy people.

[3] We like positive people.

[4] We like productive people.

[5] We like people who listen to us.

[6] We like people who show an interest in us.

[7] We like people who like us, just the way we are.

Read each of these statements, take time to really think about them. Then decide which ones are you doing or not doing. If you answer no to any of these, you may have found your answer, as to why you are alone.

Faylee

Life Coaching prices to fit all needs
contact me at FayleeJames@yahoo.com

Beginnings and Endings

Life is full of beginnings and endings. Some are minor and others are almost overwhelming. All, are life changing.
The degree of the change is up to us. Do we allow the minor things to mushroom into an overwhelming size because we do not correct it in the beginning stages? Or do we stand on the threshold of new adventures and know in our hearts these changes will bring new wisdom and treasures to our lives but fear to step off?
Beginnings or endings are rarely easy. We tend to stick to what is a familiar, even when we know it's hurting ourselves or others. We humans are creatures of habit and patterns. It's only when we give ourselves permission to stretch out and reach for something new that we really grow and see the possibilities of tomorrow.
We need to begin again, seeing the world with the eyes of a child and to accept every minute as a unique miracle. A miracle that allows us to try again and again to get to where we truly want to be in our lives.
Reach, stretch and look ahead to what is the future, leaving the endings of yesterday for the beginnings of tomorrow.

Faylee
Life Coach/Writer/Speaker

Being a Boomer, Change for the Better

I'm a boomer and proud to say so. With so many people crossing the line from "youth" to middle age we are now a majority. When we were talking the talk of not trusting anyone over thirty, did we not think we would make it this far? Did we not believe that life would lead us down the path to fifty? How naive were we? When I think of that now, I smile and ask myself, how dumb were you back then Faylee? The answer never changes, "Pretty dumb", I whisper to myself.

Now that I'm here and I see how wonderful it is, I'm amazed God didn't start us at this age. We know who we are, as a person. We do have value to input into the lives of other's. Mostly we understand the differences in each of us. The differences that make the core of our being. Those differences are not a bad thing. We can use them to build a friendship or relationship, with each of us still being true to who we are.

Some of the changes, in the 50 years of being you, are:

[1] A better outlook on lifeSmall things do not bother you anymore. So, what it's going to rain, I'll get wet or find that umbrella I lost 3 years ago.

[2] A better sex lifeYou are no longer in a hurry to get it over with before the kids find you. You and your pardoner can have second or third helpings and still have plenty of time for cuddling.

[3] FreedomYou can go to a matinee movie and eat all the popcorn. You can sing at the top of your lungs in the car and no one cares.

[4] You finally know what "I'm alone but not lonely" means. Being by yourself is not a deadly thing.

[5] We try harder because we know time isn't on our side. We will stay up all night reading that book, just because.

[6] We love stronger.We know the deep feeling of caring about someone does not go away in an instant. When you see them at their worst and keep loving them, then you know it's real. Having 50 years of learning to love to that degree is an outstanding thing.

So to all my fellow boomers, hurray for us. May we live to have 50 more years of experience.

Faylee

Faylee's Adventures Continue

What a week end this has been. Friday evening my main water line broke. I had my own little fountain in the drive way. This all happened after having the water company out here on Thursday to see why I had gotten a water bill three times my normal amount. I was assured on Thursday that it was all due to usage and not a water leak.,..uh huh, sure, right. Within 24 hours I was proven right but I would have been glad to have been proven wrong. Today I am waiting on someone to come and give me the happy news on the cost of repair.

So what if I did not get a shower yesterday, I still have food, a roof over my head, a warm place to sleep last night. All is good, because I have so many blessings in the sight of God's love.

I know that there is a plan for good to come of this, I just have to stay in the right mind to accept it. Blessings come in all shapes, ways and adventures.

More later on my adventures and misadventures,,,,now would anyone be willing to share their plumber with me?

Have a great day my friends,

Faylee

There is a Dating Life After 50

We used to think only the young had a dating life. Now that millions of us are over fifty, we find that isn't always true.

I became single again when I was about to started the second half of my century year. I was at a loss as to what to do for a social life. I was, for the most part, a stay at home Mom, with very little social life, outside of church.

I feel I was one of the blessed ones because I had a couple of single friends and they got me to go to a singles group at one of the local churches. There I met other senior singles, most of them in the same situation as I was. We had done what was expected of us, married young, had our children, then spent the next 20 years watching them grow into adults. Now when we were expecting to settle in and wait on becoming grandparents, we found ourselves divorced and alone.

Coming to this group was a wonderful adventure for me. I met many nice people and a couple of stinkers. Most of all I met people who were willing to help me adjust to my new status and grow as a re-single.
[Re-Single= Someone who had been married, some for many years, and had forgotten how to interact with others]

In this blog I hope to pass on, not only what these lovely people taught me but what I have learned in my Life Coach training to you, my readers. Please feel free to send me questions and give me your impressions of what I'm doing.

Faylee, Life Coach for Senior Singles

FayleeJames@yahoo.com Would love to hear from you.

Smiling Happy

Happiness depends on what you can give , not what you can get....Gandhi

There is more to life than the everyday stress of living. Stress can rob you of all your good thoughts, feelings and outlooks.

Beginning today I want you to see yourself as the beauty you are. I'm not talking hair, eyes or even body shape. I want you to see the beauty within. If you aren't sharing that beauty with yourself, then you know no one can see it either.

You have no idea of how amazing you really are. Things you see as nothing could mean a lot to people if you would share them. Start with your smile. Give it to everyone that comes in contact with you. The mailman, the street cleaner, your neighbor, even the woman on the street corner with the barking dog.

Then tomorrow I want you to nod your head as you smile. Give the people you are smiling at the acknowledgment that you see them, that they are important to you. Within a few days I'm sure these people will not only be waiting to see your smile, but waiting with a smile for you.
Little successes like smiling at strangers and being smiled back at, add up to a successful day. Keep adding small things to your routine of smiling and nodding, like waving to the ones across the streets. Whisper good morning to the barking dog, watch him get closer and quiet down under the beauty of your smile.

There is always a reason to smile, dig deep until you find one. Soon you will see something new blooming in you, something wonderful to smile about.

Laugh or Cry: Choose Laugh

Who ever said life wasn't meant to be mistake free, hit the nail on the head with this meal. Last evening I surprised my family with the worse meal possible.

Baked Chicken Breast, Mashed Potatoes, Cornbread Dressing and gravy, Green Beans.

When I was putting that menu on paper and seeing it in my head, it seemed a done deal. No way that someone who has been cooking for as long as I have could ruin it, but I did.

If lemon goes with chicken, why doesn't lime? It's the same citrus family, pretty green color, smells so crisp and fresh, but on my chicken breasts it turned bitter and uneatable. I made the dressing just as the package said, but it was so dry, we thought we were eating sand. The mashed potatoes were good, not great but good,yippie, something was good. Now the green beans, where were the green beans? Could it be, that maybe I had forgot them? Oh yes, still in the freezer, waiting my special touch.

In a situation like this you can do one of two things, laugh or cry. I chose to laugh. At the situation, at the green bitter chicken and most of all at this cooking expert who sometimes thinks she knows all there is to know about country cooking. Oh boy, was she wrong.

So for all you new cooks, know this, even a cook with years of experience can have an off night. Do not think badly of yourself if things do not come out right every time. Cooking is a learning experience, just like life. Smile, giggle and laugh for tomorrow is another chance to get it right.

Faylee

Spring, Sweet Spring!

We all know that winter doesn't last but when we are in the darkness, spring seems so far away. Giving away to the cold feeling of winter, makes our lives feel hopeless. We should always remember, like all things, winter is a fleeting thing and will pass.

Every day brings a new chance at happiness. A new door is about to open. If it's stuck, push harder, until you see the light of a new dream. Reach forward by letting go of yesterday.

Someone cares about what you are going through, let them help you find your path. Everybody makes mistakes. Do not let the winter darkness lead you to believe you are the only one. That's why we have erasers on pencils, NASCAR has practice runs and we humans have the try, try, try again attitude.

Give yourself the right to make a comeback, then stretch toward the light of a new spring. Not only dream again, but dream BIG!!!

Faylee

When You Can't Sing, Hum.

Singing your melody when things are tough isn't easy to do, as many of us know. This year has brought many changes in most of our lives. Some have lost their jobs, cars, home and the loss that hurts the most, people we love.

While it will be hard to move forward for some of us, it must be done for the betterment of all around us. We have a certain time on earth and using it to do the job before us will take that extra push. We have two choices, doing it with gladness or sadness, it's all up to us. Finding that special melody inside of us, will come with a job well done. Whether that "job" is a new career, a new home or a new love.


I'm here to help you find the best way for you to reach your goals. I can't do it for you but I can ask the right questions to lead you to your answers. I believe we all have the "right" answers for ourselves but sometimes we need someone to guide us to those answers. That's what a coach does. I will be your listening post, your cheerleader and the person with the right questions that go with your answers.

If your melody is lost, contact me and we'll hum until you can sing, loud and clear.

Faylee
Life Coach/Writer/Speaker

Price packaging for all needs. Feel free to contact me. FayleeJames@gmail.com